How to Overcome Negative Thinking

Many people who are prone to anxiousness have trouble controlling negative thoughts about themselves. Typically their thoughts will often be an imagined perception of how they appear to other people. They tend to have very low self esteem and are shy towards others - particularly those of the opposite gender. They also feel unattractive or worthless and it tends to hold them back from getting on with their life.
One of the many solutions to this is to attend specific counseling sessions on the subject to determine if there is a route cause to this negativity and also to try and get the person out of the cycle of negative thinking. The process becomes habit forming and needs to be broken for the person to move on.
Reinforcement of positive thoughts is a technique you can use to help build your self esteem. It requires the same recurrence to reinforce the good thoughts and thus you must make a conscious effort to carry out the technique everyday. Put it in your diary or add it as a reminder on your PDA or cellphone.
To carry out the technique, pick some things that you are proud of in your life. Find things that your are grateful for. Determine what things you are good at or things you can be positive about. For many people this can be difficult to begin with because they don't initially see the good points about themselves and this can often be from modesty. So maybe your first positive thought is "I'm a modest person who doesn't look down on others". Once you have a few of these, spend some time thinking about them and seeing yourself in a positive light. Try to dedicate between 15 to 30 minutes everyday doing this until it starts to become more of a habit for you.
To help reinforce this pattern, write down the positive points that you find about yourself and try to add to it on a daily or weekly basis. Set your target to list maybe 20 good points about yourself then once you reach that target make it 50, then 100.
Try to determine if there are any other negative influences in your life. Are there people you associate with who tend to talk or behave in a negative way? If so, it may be wise if possible to avoid these people as much as possible.
Finally, to end on a positive note, try giving compliments to people you see quite often. In return you should find that they compliment you on things as well. This will help you see the more positive side of yourself also.
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